Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid

Follow Link: "Hypothetically" By Lyfe Jennings

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gM_WZ9coOB8

What if I broke our monogamous agreement
What if I told you I lied but didn't mean it
What if my one mistake
had the potential to break
up our happy home
Would you wanna know
What if I confessed it and though she didn't mean nothing since it happened
You're thinking about leaving
What if I suppressed it
and made a vow to never mess with another
Is it cool for me to smother the facts
Is it cool for me to cover my tracks
if you'd never know
Or would me not being honest hurt you more

[Chorus:]
Hypothetically of course
Are there some things better left unsaid
Or would you wanna know instead
Hypothetically of course
Are there some wars not worth fighting
Some tears not worth crying
Hypothetically of course
What if this happened to you
what would you want me to do

[2nd Verse:]
Well what if I told you that I had a confession
What if I said 4 years ago when we were arguing
he came to comfort me and I wound up pregnant
And I just can't say for sure
if the baby's yours
What if I confessed it and it turns out not to be your baby after you get tested
And it destroys what we've been blessed with
What if I suppress it 'cause technically you're the baby's daddy anyway
Is it wrong for me to want you to stay
Would you rather have me tear you away
From the only family you know
Or is this just too big a secret to keep it on the low

THE LYRICS TO THE SONG "HYPOTHETICALLY" PRETTY MUCH SELF-EXPLAIN THE TOPIC OF THIS BLOG! We all have heard the sayings "The Truth Hurts" or "What a person doesn't Know Won't Kill Them" but are these really plausible philosophies that a relationship should be based on! I THINK NOT! Yes i agree the truth hurts but that pain is only temporary, A Lie or just not saying anything at all is a permanent scar and its also extremely waaaaaaay to much work (Once you tell one lie, you gotta tell another, then another, then another untill you lose track of what you lied about in the first place). A Couple should be able to tell each other everything, good or bad, for better or for worse! What do U Think??? Is it better to Keep Quiet or Should u let it all Out, Why or Why Not?

80/20 Rule

Not too many people know about the 80/20 Rule. But Honestly, I think it makes Perfect Sense. Many psychologists even have conducted research in regards to this interesting theory. The 80/20 Rule pretty much states that not everyone is perfect, which is true. So when your in a relationship with someone, they may have most of the qualities you are looking for in a mate, but of course not all of them. Because of the this, some look for the few qualities their mate does not have in others, overlooking the fact that that is all the "other" person is good for. In the end 80% is always a greater number an worth more than 20%

SO whats your take on the 80/20 rule? Do you agree, cuz personally I sure do! Are u a victim of this theory? (by victim, i mean have you messed around on someone because they were missing the 20% or have you been messed around on cuz you were the one who was not all your mate wanted you to be?)

What are some possible consequences of not obeying this rule?

Abusive Relationships

We all know, due to the fast-paced circulation of the media, about the recent situation between celebrity Couple Chris Brown and Rihanna. What are your opinions about the situation? Do you know of or have compiled a different version of the story?



Many have said that Chris Brown was bound to be abusive due to events of his childhood (interview with tyra banks one year ago), what do you have to say about this? What are your opinion towards abusive relationships? How should one handle being an abusive relationship? If you knew of someone, a friend, a family member, whoever, who was involved in such a relationship, either as the abuser or the abusee, what would you do?

Lies & Deception

Whats your opinion about lying in relationships and if you were in a situation that could make or break your relationship, would you lie to keep it going?

How College Life influences Relationships

Can college change a person's sexual outlook or perspective? If so, how and why?

Cutty Buddy VS Relationship: which is best suited for the college years?

Players VS Pimps

Is there a difference between the two?

A Friend Dating Another Friend's EX

Is that cool...or is it jus a BIG NO-NO???

Moving On: Dealing With a Break-Up

Follow these Links:

Chris Brown "Say Goodbye"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-wym82Fatk

Madea "People are like Trees, Leaves, and Roots"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYH6sn2ulfs

Breaking up is not an easy task, but sometimes it just has to be done. Maybe a couple has grown apart; maybe they're just better off as friends?; etc. When to you feel a relationship is not going to work and that its time to just let it go? What is the best way to break up with someone? Whats the best way to deal with a break-Up and move on with your love life or your life in general?

"Some people come into your life for a lifetime and some come for a season. You have to know which is which. I put everybody that comes into my life in the category of a tree. Some people are leaves on a tree. The wind blows, they go to the left. The wind blows from the other way, they go to the right. They are just unstable. You can't count on them for nothing. All they ever do is take from that tree. What you need to understand about a leaf is that it has a season. It'll wither and die and blow away.There ain't no need to be praying over a leaf to be resurrected. When it's dead it's gone. Let it go! Some people are like that. All the leaf ever does is cool you off every now and then. If you're grown, you know what I'm talking about, because you can call them in the middle of the night and get cooled off. That's the leaf people. They come to take. Then there are people like a branch. You got to be careful with branch people. They come in all different shapes and sizes. You never know how strong they will be in your life. So my advice is to tip out on it slowly. When you're going out on a limb, don't put too much weight on it at once, because it can fall and leave you high and dry. Sometimes, you have to wait for a branch to grow up before it can hold all of the things you want to share with it. Finally, there are people who are like roots at the bottom of the tree. If you find yourself two or three people in your entire lifetime that are like the roots, then you are blessed. The roots don't care nothing about being seen. All they're there to do is hold that tree up, to make sure it stays in the air. It comes from the earth to give that tree everything it needs. That's what relationships should be about. That's what you need, people who want to be in your life for the right reasons. If somebody wants to walk out of your life, you've got to LET THEM GO! When you learn to love yourself, you will end up giving standards to everyone around you. Again, I repeat with emphasis, if they don't meet those standards, you have to let them go, because they might be a leaf. And forgive them with all your might".

Cheaters

Have you ever cheated or been cheated on? What is your personal perspective on those who cheat or the act of cheating itself? Whats the best to handle a situation in which someone is caught cheating?

Do you agree with the theory that everyone cheats? Why or Why not?

Who cheats more, boys or girls, and who is more likely to get away with it?

Not that I encourage cheating, but what are the best ways to get away with cheating? Basically, how do you keep from getting caught?

Double Standards Within Relationships

What are some of the double standards within relationships and how do u feel about them? What are some of your own personal expierences with these double standards?